When my children came along, I quickly learned there was something beautifully different about our family. That "different" turned out to be a wild mix of giftedness, ADHD, autism, dyslexia, and dyspraxia across different family members. And even though it took me a while, finally it dawned on me: I was the same (cough, cough).

This discovery sent me deep into educating myself and understanding neurodivergence better and how it affects our lives. I learned that conventional approaches - whether in parenting, teaching, or leading - simply don't work for neurodivergent minds. But here's the fascinating part: all the approaches that help neurodivergent people thrive also help neurotypicals flourish. Whereas it doesn't work the other way around.

I discovered how much our traditional methods rely on shaming, humiliating, and making people small - approaches that literally shut down the parts of our brains needed most for effective regulation and change. Which is a shame.

I'm a late diagnosed ADHD woman, and while the autistic part isn't officially diagnosed (hello, waiting lists of several years!), it explains 100% how my mind works. For my everyday life, AuDHD is simply my reality. I've always been the sensitive, quirky, slightly different person who sees underlying patterns and sometimes gets in trouble for stating them.

But here's what I've learned: my multi-lateral, pattern-recognizing brain works most efficiently when there's abundant room for play, humor, and meandering. What seems counterintuitive from a conventional perspective is actually what makes growth quicker, more sustainable, AND emotionally enjoyable. For everybody, not just me.

Through raising neurodivergent kids in a world that pathologizes neurodivergent traits, I learned some hard truths about trauma, change, and what actually works:

The Universal Principles:

• As a parent or leader, you need solid emotional regulation first (there really is no way around)
• Curiosity without judgement beats force and "because I said so" every time
• Security in yourself allows you to lead with kindness and integrity
• Change happens through radical acceptance of your humanity - both your potential for good and bad
• Failure isn't a moral defect; it's data as valuable as success

The Pattern I Discovered:

Trauma and neurodivergence often create similar struggles. Add in the reality that most women in our society carry some form of trauma (just look at the criminal statistics), and it becomes clear:

everyone benefits from the "neurodivergent-approved" approach.

I always look for root causes: Surface fixes don't interest me. I want to understand the underlying patterns that create lasting change.

Holistic Systems Thinking: My pattern-oriented brain sees how everything connects. I help you engineer conditions that make change feel safe and sustainable.

Your Wisdom + My Perspective: I deeply honor your knowledge, skills, and personal insights. What works for me doesn't necessarily work for you. What worked for you before might not work now. And that's perfectly normal. We just go and look for a way that actually works for you now.

The Bird's Eye View: My unique brain allows me to be present with you in your process while simultaneously holding the bird's eye perspective of how change unfolds. I'm not afraid of holding all those perspectives at once.

Play + Precision: I've embraced humor and play wholeheartedly because I know they help regulate emotions, encourage experimentation, and make heavy ground feel lighter. This isn't frivolous - it's strategic.

I Have Been There, Too: I've been through similar struggles. I will not make you do things that I haven't tested on myself first. And I'm not afraid of the messiness of change, because I've done it so often that I even know the patterns of that.

• Certified Coach of Life Success with the Association of Coaches (AC)
• Member of the Association for Coaches
• Decades of experience across multiple industries and leadership roles
• Extensive personal research and lived experience in neurodivergent approaches
• Continuous learning and self-experimentation (I'm my own best guinea pig!)

Whether you're an individual ready for sustainable change or an organization wanting leaders who actually thrive, my approach offers something different:

• Pattern recognition that sees what others miss
• Neurodivergent-approved methods that work for all brains
• Play-based learning that makes change enjoyable and sustainable
• Systems thinking that addresses root causes, not just symptoms
• Traum-informed approaches that create genuine safety for growth

I've learned that creating space for play, humor, and exploration isn't just nice to have - it's what makes profound change possible. And frankly, as the one constant variable in life is change, it would be a shame for transformation work to be a grim and bleak endeavor that exhausts your soul!

If you're tired of approaches that fight against your nature instead of working with it, if you're ready for change that feels sustainable and even enjoyable, let's talk.

I See patterns others miss, and I'd love to help you see yours.

P.S. My journey of constant reinvention isn't over. I'm still learning, still experimenting, still growing. That's not a bug in my system - it's a feature.  It means I understand from the inside what it's like to navigate change, uncertainty, and the courage it takes to keep evolving. And I hope to learn and evolve to the day I die. I wouldn't want it any other way.